A skeptics view

A skeptics view 

"I Tapped for it and it Worked" - the conversion to EFT of a Skeptic

A friend of mine had been complaining for a few days of generalized aches and pains and tiredness. We would talk of other things but inevitably the talk would get round to how she had this unspecific pain or was just feeling ‘blah'. She didn't know why and this normally optimistic and energetic person was just not herself. It was sad to see.

 

I happened to know that my friend had recently taken on a new job. She's a perfectionist and she wanted to do her very best for the people she was working for. But her first assignment had quickly turned into something she didn't expect. She was enjoying it - in parts. But she wasn't familiar with the material she really needed a handle on. That distressed her and made her worry. I know because we'd talked of it often over the previous couple of weeks as I'd called round for a cup of tea.

 

"I'm just making a mess of it. I thought it would be easy, but it's really not," she would say.

 

I'd listen and nod, of course, whilst performing the EFT tapping routine.

 

But her mind was set on these aches and pains being the problem. They were the reason she'd taken a break - not that she was struggling to find new and helpful material for her project. Yes, of course they were - not! I tried to point this out to her a few time: "You sound stressed...break it into chunks and you can do it...you can always ask for help..."

All my advice fell on deaf ears and my EFT tapping routine continued.

 

Then eventually a breakthrough: -

 

"What are you doing with your hands?" she asked. "You're doing that funny tapping thing aren't you?"

 

The tone was accusatory.

 

"Yes, " I replied calmly. "I think you know the problem is your worry of letting people down and not doing a good job and I'm hoping that you will recognize that too in time."

 

"Rubbish!" she poo-pooed me.

 

What could I do but shrug. I left her home because she looked worn out and she was getting irritated with me. I thought I'd give her space to get on with her work - or continue to panic about it. When I visited the next day, I found her even more stressed. Instead of working steadily at the project, she'd used her feeling of exhaustion and hopelessness as an excuse to take herself off to bed for a nap that then last three hours - a whole afternoon eaten into her already packed time-line for the project.

 

"Yes, I know, I know!...Look - just show me this EFT tapping routine, will you!" she begged.

Of course, I did and left her with a hug and my positive thoughts and energy.

 

The next day, SHE called me - MUCH brighter.

 

"I've done it! I've broken through the wall and this project's not so hard after all!" she proudly told me, to my delight.

 

"Oh - what made the difference?" I asked.

 

She explained how she had taken a few minutes after I'd gone to centre and focus and really see what was important then she had begun:

 

"Even though I am really stressed and panicking about this project, I still like and accept myself."

 

She had paused, feeling silly, but he project was still there and it still needed to be completed. There was nothing to lose!

 

"So, I did the - what did you call it? - The set-up phrase? ... This time I focused and I started to feel a kind of peace. I knew I could actually do this," she'd explained.

 

"I told myself that I was capable of doing this project and that when I had finished each component, I would be happy and proud of the result."

 

Ohhh, getting clever now! She'd thrown in a bit of Dr Pat Carrington!

 

"Then every time I felt myself panic, and feel overwhelmed, I would perform the EFT tapping routine again and repeat my phrase," she explained. "I...um...I've finished the project!"

 

Great! We hugged and I congratulated her.

 

"Yep, you were right; I tapped for it and it worked," she grinned, quite back to her old self.

 

More EFT anyone?